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Jun. 13th, 2003 @ 07:56 am Kingfoxdor the Interrogatinator
Yes, kingfox dares to question me. . .

1. What have been the most challenging and most rewarding aspects of married life for you?

Challenging? Really, the whole point of our marriage at this point is that if it's hard, we're doing it incorrectly. I'm not being coy here. It's simple, respect, love, humor, and fun really make things work. Sure, we're not perfect, so the challenge is probably when I fail to meet my own or my partner's expectations, and conflict arises. But, for instance, just a few days ago, we happened to channel surf into Dr. Phil, and he had a segment about videotaping a couple at home, and they were always yelling at each other. We don't really do that. We just figure it out and move on. There's no latent rage, no lack of venting. It's all about communication. You have to talk this stuff out before it gets big. If it gets out of control you've already lost; and even if you resolve the situation the scar of the conflict is there. That will wear on the relationship; I've seen it happen too many times. The challenge is not letting that happen.

Rewards? Most center around the fact that my life is grounded due to my relationship, I get support, caring, all that good stuff. I think about it as something we've created together, and I'm very happy with it (we're talking 15 years of together at this point, with one small break that, cliche be damned, actually brought us closer together, and is probably when we realized hiding things we feel wasn't a good idea.) The idea of the relationship as a "thing", that I can look at and be really proud of, that's rewarding. That probably sounds a little unromantic, but part of what is appealing about it is it's still very romantic after all this time. And there's also the pithy answer about the kid, and really looking forward to raising a child in the environment we've created.

2. Carrying the chain... Fill in the blank: My favorite part of working at drewcns is windexcowboy's ___________.

Unbelievable enthusiasm for new ideas. His ability to design detailed plans, seemingly out of his head, first draft. The fact that he reads manuals and understands them. That I can usually rely on him to make a project work even if he tells me it's impossible first.

3. f your wife was trapped under a mountain of raspberries, and your arms and legs were bound, what would you do?

First, I would find a phone, knock it off the receiver, and use my nose to dial 911 and scream into the handset. Then, assuming the mountain is not so big as to make it so she can't hear me, I would encourage her to start eating her way out--she really enjoys raspberries, and every little bit will help.

I'm assuming said mountain of raspberries is a life-threatening situation. I would then use my upper torso as best as I could to dig. The smell would be horrendous, I would frequently hold my breath, but soon I would be overcome. The good news is it would probably get to a point where the smell wouldn't get any worse, and if these are actual raspberries, I've had less of a problem with them if I get to experience the entire fruit, so I'm hoping I would reach a discomfort plateau that I could press on through, knowing that it's a temporary experience necessary to save a loved one. It's not like I'm running through fire or having to go 50 feet underwater, or do something actually dangerous, after all.

4. What has been the most profound, powerful, perception-altering moment of your life to date?

You want me to say something like "losing my virginity" or "the first time I dropped acid" or "the time when I killed a man" or something like that. Well, the real answer, upon reflection, is something seemingly innocuous, yet deeply subversive.

I was probably about 12 or 13. My dad and I were out somewhere, I don't even remember (we might have been spending the day in Harper's Ferry, WV, out shopping for car stuff, doing something Scouting related, I simply don't recall.) Dad was educated by the Jesuits, and he was attempting to explain their philosophy. He told me that no matter what, I should always be observant. Always take a close look at what's going on, seek to figure things out, but most importantly really pay attention to the world.

I took this to heart, and it's that moment that helped forge my political and social beliefs. Because, looking around, I know it's mostly an accident of birth that got me where I am, and I shouldn't disparage those who are less fortunate. It's what made me want an electronics kit, a chemistry set and a computer, and to really understand how those worked. It's what gave me a sense of being non-judgemental which I still use today. It's especially ironic in that my father is now a conservative for whom Rush Limbaugh is as far to the left as he gets.

5. In what aspects of your life do you think you come closest to being non earth-raping, and in what aspects do you feel you fall woefully short of the ideal?

We pretty much only buy organic stuff at this point. We buy only recycled paper towels and such. We reuse plastic and paper bags, glass jars, and plastic containers. We use very little air conditioning and heat the house to 65 in the winter, and let it drop to 58 at night. We only use environmentally safe cleaning products. We don't put any chemicals on the lawn, and try and use natural pesticides. We buy lots of stuff in bulk.

Most importantly, we don't consume very much. We don't buy crap at Wal-Mart or K-Mart or Target unless it's something we actually need, the things we do buy we buy to keep for a long time. I contrast with my oldest brother whose house is a miracle of entropy--filled with bits and pieces of imported crap, mostly purchased in his daily visits to Wal-Mart, that he uses, breaks, and throws away. Any toys that his kids get inevitably end up in pieces on the floor and thrown out. I know that toys break, but I'm talking every single one, even the ones they allegedly like. I don't think their lives are better for it.

I really try not to be self-righteous about it, because I work in an industry that creates immense amounts of pollution in the manufacture and disposal of electronics, as well as amazing amounts of power consumption. We own 2 cars and they're not huge SUVs but they're also not hybrids either. We also drive a lot to work (I used to carpool when origamislayer lived nearby, but no more.) With the wife working we've been buying more processed foods (organic, all natural processed foods but still.) We like traveling and flying on planes. I enjoy music and rock concerts that take energy to make, distribute, and perform. Fundamentally, no matter how environmentally conscious I claim to be, I'm still an American living something well within the bounds of the typical American lifestyle. I hope to aspire to the European standard, at least, but even that's worse than living in a solar-powered shack, growing your own food, using composting toilets, and wiping your ass with leaves, or still more environmentally straining than how 80% of the world's population lives.

Oh yeah, I'm supposed to offer to ask other people questions. Please reply to this message with the words "Do me! Do me!" in the subject or body.
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Date:June 13th, 2003 06:28 am (UTC)
You want me to say something like "losing my virginity" or "the first time I dropped acid" or "the time when I killed a man" or something like that. Well, the real answer, upon reflection, is something seemingly innocuous, yet deeply subversive.

Bah, no, I didn't want you to say any of those three things, unless it truly was the most profound moment of your life. Yeah, some of the most profound moments of my life have been during things that would seem minor and inconsequential from the outside. In short, I was expecting and hoping for an answer closer to what you gave then one of the stereotypical answers. As much as I tease you about it, I doubt you would have responded with something like, ``When Marillion got on stage in England and I realized the world was a good place!''

Good answers. Thanks. I particularly enjoyed your answer to number one, even if I have it before. So... if you wouldn't mind... interview me?
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Date:June 13th, 2003 08:54 am (UTC)


As much as I tease you about it, I doubt you would have responded with something like, ``When Marillion got on stage in England and I realized the world was a good place!''

Never mind what I said earlier. That was the most profound, perception-alerting moment of my life.
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Date:June 13th, 2003 04:26 pm (UTC)
1) Which would you rather do, and why: No longer wear any black clothing, or cut your hair?

2) If Bruce Dickinson were trapped in a mountain of raspberries, and you were unable to do anything but blink your eyes and slowly construct words by breathing into a tube, and I was the only other person available to help, how would you convince me to save him?

3) Describe a point in your life where if you had made a different decision, your life would have gone off in a completely different arc. For extra credit, briefly give a timeline of that arc from that point to the present.

4) Without kissing my ass, fill in the following blanks: If I could clone one co-worker in CNS to work with, it would be __________ because ___________

5) I'm the bartender at your favorite bar. I'm making a drink in your honor called The Russ. How is it prepared, what's in it, and why?

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Date:June 13th, 2003 09:54 am (UTC)
I would like to be questioned.

Do me!! Do me!!
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Date:June 13th, 2003 04:31 pm (UTC)

Riddle me this:

1) I've noticed deficiencies in your spelling in LiveJournal posts. Are you aware of this? Why aren't you using a spellchecker?

2) If you could spend a week road tripping with a Hollywood celebrity that you're attracted to, who would it be and why?

3) If you were in a position to do so, what would be the general steps you would use to resolve the Israeli/Palestinian situation?

4) Why did you go to Drew instead of Yale?

5) If you could no longer listen to the music of one of your top 3 favorite bands (which you must enumerate), which one would it be?
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Date:June 13th, 2003 02:01 pm (UTC)


perhaps I need to be done again.

do me too!!!
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Date:June 13th, 2003 04:37 pm (UTC)

Re: hmm...

1) You're one of the most unorthodox theological students I've met. When and how did you get the calling to ministry, and how does it reconcile to your otherwise seemingly hedonistic lifestyle?

2) Have you ever heard any Marillion? Why aren't you a bigger Marillion fan?

3) Where do you see yourself in 10 years?

4) Coffee or cigarettes: Which do you live without first, and why?

5) How has your experience at acadtech and drewcns actually changed you as a human being?
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Date:June 13th, 2003 08:25 pm (UTC)

Okay, I'll bite...

so go ahead and "Do Me! Do Me!"
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Date:June 16th, 2003 06:38 pm (UTC)

Re: Okay, I'll bite...

1) Describe the moment you first identified as a Deadhead.

2) What's the most rewarding part of your current job?

3) You're the youngest of your large Irish family. How has being the youngest child affected you?

4) If you were going to replace the vice of smoking with another vice, which one would it be and why?

5) If you were going to permanently dye your hair another color, which would it be?
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Date:June 13th, 2003 08:32 pm (UTC)


Do me! Do me!
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Date:June 16th, 2003 06:33 pm (UTC)

Re: OK

1) You seem to me to be a musical agnostic, not really liking or disliking any particular song, band, or style. How did you get that way?

2) How the heck does your brain work? I mean, you seemingly read things once and have it for good, and can integrate it into other things at a dizzying rate. Is there advice you can give the rest of us?

3) Describe, in excruciating detail, the first time you got really drunk. Names, places, all the stupid crap you did.

4) (since someone asked me) If not computers, what would you be doing now?

5) If you were going to dye your hair regularly, what color would it be?
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Date:June 16th, 2003 06:20 pm (UTC)
I answer best.
interview. me. because. I. am. me.
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Date:June 16th, 2003 06:44 pm (UTC)
1) Hate seems to be an identifying emotion for you. How does hate figure into your day-to-day life? Does gin have anything to do with it?

2) If you had college to do all over again (and I'm not suggesting you do) what would you do differently?

3) I've enjoyed Dear Frank immensely. You, currently, do not have a job. Have you considered turning Dear Frank into a profit-making enterprise?

4) If you were to add a completely new bad habit to your repertoire, what would you choose, and why?

5) What is the one thing that you feel people don't understand about you?
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Date:June 19th, 2003 02:31 pm (UTC)
Do me! Do me!
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Date:June 20th, 2003 02:55 pm (UTC)

I question you

1. How'd you get to be such a Marillion fan, and what in particular draws you to their music?

2. If you could have changed one thing about your mother growing up, what would it be?

3. What's with the attraction to geeky guys (you should answer this question in the abstract and not in regards to your current, committed relationship)?

4. What's the thing about New Jersey you miss most when you're in Portland?

5. What was the most significant thing you learned in your Aide Station years?